Gee thanks! Em catz, You could've saved us all that thought and time apparently with 2 those two lines (above).
I don't quite follow your reply. I wasn't trying to be flip. I just wanted her to know that she didn't have to put up with all the hassle and she and her fiance should do what they feel is best.
These people seem a bit odd. Maybe that's just the way they are. Just do whatever you want to do in regards to the wedding and send them an invitation. I would tell your mom not to try to make arrangements to call them any more. Who does that?? If someone wants to call they call. They don't make an appointment to call people.
Em, my future in-laws are... I don't even know how to describe it.
My future MIL gave me a list of people for his side of the family. It is a copy of her address book. She doesn't talk to half these people and I don't know and J doesn't know who half of them are either.
I forgot to send an invite to his great- aunt for the Bridal Shower. Remember how I said I don't know these people? Well at 4am he gets an e-mail saying something along the lines of:
You can forget about Joe, myself and uninvited us and the rest of my family and friends to the wedding. The $5,000 we gave you for your house, keep it. Your Christmas presents we gave you, we don't want them back but you won't be getting any more from us. My surgery is on Friday, you will not being hearing about results. It is none of your business.
There wasn't a call saying hey can you invite so and so... or an e-mail saying it. Nope, that's what we got.
Sheesh.
I told J the other day. One more thing from her and I'm going to flip out on her. Like she is lucky she is 1,300 miles away and I can't just go over and scream at her.
Em, my future in-laws are... I don't even know how to describe it.
My future MIL gave me a list of people for his side of the family. It is a copy of her address book. She doesn't talk to half these people and I don't know and J doesn't know who half of them are either.
I forgot to send an invite to his great- aunt for the Bridal Shower. Remember how I said I don't know these people? Well at 4am he gets an e-mail saying something along the lines of:
You can forget about Joe, myself and uninvited us and the rest of my family and friends to the wedding. The $5,000 we gave you for your house, keep it. Your Christmas presents we gave you, we don't want them back but you won't be getting any more from us. My surgery is on Friday, you will not being hearing about results. It is none of your business.
There wasn't a call saying hey can you invite so and so... or an e-mail saying it. Nope, that's what we got.
Sheesh.
I told J the other day. One more thing from her and I'm going to flip out on her. Like she is lucky she is 1,300 miles away and I can't just go over and scream at her.
OMG I would expect a bride having a melt down but a great-aunt!!!
I will "think" bad things about your impossible in laws. Heck if you want I'll go cuss them out for you what's their address?
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We gave a bunch of invitations to my MIL and she sent them to whomever she wanted to for the bridal shower. If she had forgotten someone that was on her. Worked out great!
I, too, read the FIL comment as passive-aggressive; maybe because I'm dealing with the same thing from MY OWN family. It's so annoying to say the least.
I would say Swan has some great advice for this. You can't make someone be an active participant, so just do your own thing. That's what I'm doing in my situation, and it's significantly less stressful (though I do have one parent constantly telling me to reach out to the other... But you can only do so much when the other person refuses to do nothing). If they want to be involved, they know how to get in touch with you.
Em, sorry about this. So many times, when a wedding comes around, so much ends up coming out (strong emotions, etc.) between families &/or friends during what's supposed to be a joyous occasion. I know it may be easier said than done, but try not to let the negativity ruin your fun planning or special day itself!
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Originally Posted by swansong1
It is your wedding, you choose the guest list. Invite who you want, save a spot for the in laws, and give the head count to your family...end of matter.
Em, my future in-laws are... I don't even know how to describe it.
My future MIL gave me a list of people for his side of the family. It is a copy of her address book. She doesn't talk to half these people and I don't know and J doesn't know who half of them are either.
I forgot to send an invite to his great- aunt for the Bridal Shower. Remember how I said I don't know these people? Well at 4am he gets an e-mail saying something along the lines of:
You can forget about Joe, myself and uninvited us and the rest of my family and friends to the wedding. The $5,000 we gave you for your house, keep it. Your Christmas presents we gave you, we don't want them back but you won't be getting any more from us. My surgery is on Friday, you will not being hearing about results. It is none of your business.
There wasn't a call saying hey can you invite so and so... or an e-mail saying it. Nope, that's what we got.
Sheesh.
I told J the other day. One more thing from her and I'm going to flip out on her. Like she is lucky she is 1,300 miles away and I can't just go over and scream at her.
I can see why your honey lives so far away. I hope they calm down.
I can see why your honey lives so far away. I hope they calm down.
We stayed with his parents for 3 days before we moved from Florida to Iowa. We didn't just walk out to get to the car to leave we RAN!
She gets like this sometimes. I always say she is her own special kind of unique. But she has annoyed me to the point where I am no longer going to involve her in anything wedding related. I don't care what she thinks. She is also not invited to get her hair done with everyone anymore because she began making it about her and what she can get done, etc. Oh well. If she doesn't like it she can stay in Florida.
The world apparently has to revolve around her. Ugh. We were nice enough to invite people who aren't going to be coming anyway. I could have saved a lot of money on invitations/response cards for not inviting the 20 people that she doesn't know or doesn't even talk to. Heck, I had 3 things come back to me in the mail.
It's my birthday! 
what's their address?
